Searching For Kings and Queens

We as children of God should begin to change the way we look at people, especially when it comes to love. I notice so many people who are only concerned about one thing, looks. We often get so wrapped up in the physical outward appearance that we forget that true beauty is not measured in the physical but rather the spiritual. So many brothers are all wrapped up in what she looks like. I see so many sisters who are so focused on his physical appearance. Then I look around and see many of my humble brothers and sisters who are overlooked or forgotten because they are not physically up to par with the world’s standards of “beauty.” So, we miss out, we miss out on wonderful people. We miss out on amazing Godly relationships because we are so concerned and wrapped up in outward appearance. We are so focused on the physical that we completely miss the spiritual.

When it comes to finding a future spouse, we must understand that God looks at things differently than we do. Ladies you may be looking to see if is he tall, is he dark and is he handsome, while God is looking to see is he strong, is he faithful, is he courageous. Guys may be looking to see if she is curvaceous and appealing physically where God may be looking to see is she kind, humble, and respectful of leadership.

We see this in first Samuel 16:7 when God sends Samuel on a search to find the new king of Israel. As Samuel is on this search for a new king he is looking at all the wrong things. Samuel is focused on finding a king with the right physical appearance and stature. He has this idea in mind of what he thinks a king should look like. Eventually Samuel stumbles across a man named Eliab who he thinks is a perfect fit to be the new king. As soon as Samuel sees Eliab he says, “Surely this is the Lord’s anointed!” But then God speaks to Samuel and says “Samuel do not look at his appearance or height because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart”

We as children of God are not so different from Samuel. Samuel was on a search for the king of Israel just as many of us are on a search for the kings and queens of our heart. And just like Samuel we are prone to focus on a person’s outward appearance and look over what is truly important. The heart. Many of us may have found someone who we think is perfect but just as God spoke to Samuel and said, “I have rejected him” God speaks and will say no “not him” or “not her”. God does this because he loves us and wants the absolute best for us and our lives.

It is so easy for us as children of God to miss out on God’s best for us when we are focused on the physical. God may send us someone who has a good heart and is spiritually attractive but we don’t give them a chance because their outward appearance or physical stature does not measure up to our preconceived expectations. It is so easy to overlook some of beautiful sons and daughters of God in because our carnal eyes tell us they are less attractive. But if we would begin to see with our spiritual eye we would be truly shocked at how beautiful and strong some of the men and women around us are. Brothers and sisters, we need to stop “looking” at the physical and start “seeing” the spiritual. And If we don’t I am afraid that many of us could miss out on what God has for us.

I am sure that if Samuel choose Eliab that Eliab would have made a perfectly acceptable king. But instead God lead Samuel to choose another. And in Verse 12-13 we see that God speaks to Samuel and says, “This is the one, anoint him”. And the man that God chose was named David. But you may know him as King David.

God will always choose the best for us, but we must be willing to trust him we he says no and have the faith to follow him when he says go.

Blessing and Love,
Joseph Jeremiah

 

Learning to Love Alone

In our romantic relationships (current or future) we must learn to love even when we’re not being loved.

I once read a quote in the beginning of a book that said,“ few have the courage to love alone.” This quote speaks to the fact that in our courting and dating relationships we may find it easy to love those who love us. How much courage does a being need in order to love those who love them? When that special someone is being caring, kind and loving to you, how easy is it to go on loving them right back?

But what happens when they stop being caring and kind, do you stop loving? Jesus said, “For if you love those who love you what reward is there for that? Do not even the tax collectors do the same.But it takes courage to love when we are not being loved in return. Learning to love alone is the heart of true love and the lifeblood of Agape love. Unconditional love.

The world we live in teaches us that love must be earned and that we should only be nice and caring to those who are nice and caring to us. This is not the truth. I want to challenge us to break this cycle of conditional love. Let’s break this yoke that tells us our love and actions must be based on someone else’s love and actions towards us. Break the cycle and set your love free . Your love for someone else should not be dependent on their love for you.

The world seems to operate on an unwritten relationship code: If someone is not treating you the way you feel you deserved to be treated then we should leave them for someone else. There’s this idea that you should only be as kind to someone as they are to you. Right, only give them as much as they are giving you. Only text them as much as they are texting you. Only apologize if they apologize to you. Only love them as much them as they are loving you!!! Brothers and sisters this not how God intended love to be. Love should not be bound in chains of dependence, imprisoned by the actions of others. Break the cycle, set your love free.

This mentality creates a cycle of dependent love, of conditional love.  But love was always designed to be unconditional. This false code limits the true power of the love that God has breathed into us. Your love for others should not be dependent on their love for you.

“God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). Christ sets the example of true love, independent love, of unconditional love. Jesus loved us even when we didn’t love him, showing us that our love for others should not depend upon their love for us.

Understand that during the course of your courting and dating relationship things are going to happen. There may come a time when he or she fails to love you like they used to, but you must not allow your love to fail them. There may be days, weeks or even months where he or she starts acting nasty, rude, and mean towards you. All relationships go through hard times, all. But will you give up? Will you start looking for an exit? Will you stop loving?

There may be times where school, work, or family issues take priority of your special someone’s attention. You may be neglected for a time or season, this is life. But will you stop loving because they stopped not loving you?  Or will you press towards the mark, and show others the unconditional love that God has surely shown you.

Brothers and sisters if we continue to walk in this cycle of conditional love then we will only be able to show them as much love as they are showing us. One hiccup in the relationship one dry season could be the end a beautiful union, unless we have the strength and courage to love in a season where our love is not being returned. This is why it is so important for us to learn to love even when we are not being loved.

You must be able to say sorry to them even when they are not saying sorry to you. You must be able to encourage them even when they are not encouraging you. You must learn to love them even when they are not loving you. You must learn to hold them even when they don’t hold you back. Break the cycle and set your love free. Learn to love them even when they are not loving you, and your relationship will stand the test of time.

Grace and peace

-Joseph Jeremiah

Love

There’s a difference between loving someone and being in love. Being in love is all about how you feel – sheltering those galaxy shattering emotions in a fragile heart.

Just looking at that special someone and thinking Wow”. Those nights spent lying awake at night with those favorite love songs on repeat, completely amazed by the feelings running through your chest. When you haven’t seen them for a while and you’re getting ready for date night. Everything you wear and everything you do is just to catch a glimpse of that look in their eyes when they first behold you. You would do anything to make them feel special, give everything just to help them understand how deep your affection runs.

No flaws are seen, your beloved is perfect – their smile, that laugh. Ahh….love the most powerful emotion, the most captivating feeling a human being can experience.  All the poems, songs, books and movies based solely on this one life changing concept. Love, or shall I say “in love” to be more precise. I am not knocking the feeling, I love the feeling. I do. But I have learned that there is a great deal more to love thing than emotions and feelings.

Loving someone – no longer is it about how you feel or what you say, but more about what you do. Loving someone means giving when you’re tired, showing patience when you’re stressed and being vulnerable even when you’re scared. Loving someone is about putting others first and yourself second.

Love forgives in an instant and forgets all past wrongs. Love gives all without asking for anything in return. Love is willing to fight, willing to struggling, willing to endure – eternal. Love is not proud, cannot be proud. For pride is the mortal enemy of Love, they cannot coexist

True love takes great strength, and requires much courage. True love will push you to your wildest limits and then ask for more. Truly loving someone will test your heart, challenge your commitment, and change you in ways you never expected.

True Love, something many seek to find. I wonder if the treasure is not so much in the finding, but rather in the giving.

– Joseph Jeremiah