We as children of God should begin to change the way we look at people, especially when it comes to love. I notice so many people who are only concerned about one thing, looks. We often get so wrapped up in the physical outward appearance that we forget that true beauty is not measured in the physical but rather the spiritual. So many brothers are all wrapped up in what she looks like. I see so many sisters who are so focused on his physical appearance. Then I look around and see many of my humble brothers and sisters who are overlooked or forgotten because they are not physically up to par with the world’s standards of “beauty.” So, we miss out, we miss out on wonderful people. We miss out on amazing Godly relationships because we are so concerned and wrapped up in outward appearance. We are so focused on the physical that we completely miss the spiritual.
When it comes to finding a future spouse, we must understand that God looks at things differently than we do. Ladies you may be looking to see if is he tall, is he dark and is he handsome, while God is looking to see is he strong, is he faithful, is he courageous. Guys may be looking to see if she is curvaceous and appealing physically where God may be looking to see is she kind, humble, and respectful of leadership.
We see this in first Samuel 16:7 when God sends Samuel on a search to find the new king of Israel. As Samuel is on this search for a new king he is looking at all the wrong things. Samuel is focused on finding a king with the right physical appearance and stature. He has this idea in mind of what he thinks a king should look like. Eventually Samuel stumbles across a man named Eliab who he thinks is a perfect fit to be the new king. As soon as Samuel sees Eliab he says, “Surely this is the Lord’s anointed!” But then God speaks to Samuel and says “Samuel do not look at his appearance or height because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord sees the heart”
We as children of God are not so different from Samuel. Samuel was on a search for the king of Israel just as many of us are on a search for the kings and queens of our heart. And just like Samuel we are prone to focus on a person’s outward appearance and look over what is truly important. The heart. Many of us may have found someone who we think is perfect but just as God spoke to Samuel and said, “I have rejected him” God speaks and will say no “not him” or “not her”. God does this because he loves us and wants the absolute best for us and our lives.
It is so easy for us as children of God to miss out on God’s best for us when we are focused on the physical. God may send us someone who has a good heart and is spiritually attractive but we don’t give them a chance because their outward appearance or physical stature does not measure up to our preconceived expectations. It is so easy to overlook some of beautiful sons and daughters of God in because our carnal eyes tell us they are less attractive. But if we would begin to see with our spiritual eye we would be truly shocked at how beautiful and strong some of the men and women around us are. Brothers and sisters, we need to stop “looking” at the physical and start “seeing” the spiritual. And If we don’t I am afraid that many of us could miss out on what God has for us.
I am sure that if Samuel choose Eliab that Eliab would have made a perfectly acceptable king. But instead God lead Samuel to choose another. And in Verse 12-13 we see that God speaks to Samuel and says, “This is the one, anoint him”. And the man that God chose was named David. But you may know him as King David.
God will always choose the best for us, but we must be willing to trust him we he says no and have the faith to follow him when he says go.
Blessing and Love,